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Date Joined: January 21, 2018
Last Online: July 9, 2019 Country: United States |
Profile updated on: 7/8/19
Some pretty disturbing bullying has been going on here and I’m the latest victim of this particularly aggressive, had nothing better to do it seems, swapper @vivaladiane whose convinced she knows me as another swapper. She’s been bad mouthing, and I’ve never met or swapped with the woman. The only we’ve spoke is her reaching out in a creepy private message saying she likes nature stuff to and wants to swap with me, and that I remind her of her “close” friend. Whose obviously not that close or she’d know where she is. I’ve dealt since day one on here with so called “og-original members” that seem to feel entitled to bully newbies and harass them about being potential flankers to the point they just flee the site. I thought this would be an empowering website for fellow women artists, it’s not. It’s a strong majority of women who seem to have no other life pursuits but this site and really enjoy bullying. Which is just sad and disappointing. I tried to go above and beyond in swaps, and dealt with a international swapper rating me a one and then changing it to a 5 and thanking me for my resend when I never did a resend. I knew she received because I had the tracking number to prove it. She just got called out by me for trying to get another free swap; more recently then I’ve dealt with coming back from visiting my brother in Michigan in rehab, having been removed from two groups I had 5❤️Ratings in for all my swaps and stellar reviews on my tags. But the group coordinator of one apparently didn’t like her free handmade PIB postcard and removed me from her group after some of the rudest messages giving me her address while oozing annoyance apparently for the offense of trying to reach out and make her a nice, and I might add free to her, handmade postcard. I’ve never dealt with such ingratitude, she clearly has serious issues not knowing how to respectfully deal with other people, just read her profile, it just oozes friendliness. (Extreme sarcasm). I have a bipolar sister, mental illness is not an excuse for treating people like shit.
I’ve clicked on the swapper profile I was told should be linked with mine and it’s deleted but regardless I’m not linking any profile with mine because I didn’t earn those ratings. I earned these. This Diane chick thinks she’s some kind of sleuth on here, she’s a BULLY!
. And I’m done here...just done! To the like two people who were really amazingly wonderful to me I thank you for you kindness, maybe the rest of you can learn from them and show some kindness to new members trying to be apart of your “original members only” self appointed club.
And seriously, to Diane , wtf is wrong with you? II read about you in the forums and all the bullying you’ve done “calling out” completely innocent swappers whose only crime is being new. You create a mob mentality with your “followers”there... a lot. Your behavior is deplorable. Adult bullying really?!?! Pathetic. This place is TOXIC!!! She has her lil minions lined up to rate me ones despite what I send out. I was told she’s already tried to convince one swap partner of mine to rate me a one for having to do a resend but my partner wouldn’t and apologized saying she felt it was wrong to ask her to do that. Why she and others won’t speak up to this women I don’t know. I’ve been in tears for hours, while I tried to comprehend what would possess grown women to behave this way. I’ve still followed through on my swaps cuz I don’t care about the ratings since I’ll never be back here, I just want my partners to get their swaps. And be happy with the care and effort I put in them. I don’t want to deal with a bully. I spent the last year and a half trying to escape and then deal with an abusive ex boyfriend who turned stalker and held he at gunpoint before taking his life in front of me. I wanted this to be a positive place to make new friends while I’m living in a new state and don’t really know anyone and I tried so hard to be open and honest and genuine and make amazing swaps and still got attacked. For whatever reason this women is convinced she knows me and that I used to swap on here. The swapper @misswimsy was well liked it seems and left in good standing, but isn’t me and I guess swapbot has now deleted her profile cuz it’s gone. But enough..,I don’t need to explain myself but this women should be held accountable and not allowed to do this to others.
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I went through the same situation 10 years ago - not with this swapper although I have heard way too many similar stories about her but other ones- and Admin did not even reply to my messages asking for help. I have seen so many good decent people leaving the site because of this. It seems some people here has total freedom to bully, insult and even threaten whoever they wish. Sad that this is allowed. I don't even understand why you have been suspended since you have a perfect 5 on your ratings.
VERY CONCERNED RE THE BEHAVIOR YOU’VE REPORTED & HOPING SB ADMIN WILL TAKE YOUR CONCERNS SERIOUSLY!
FURTHER, I APOLOGIZE ON BEHALF OF THE KIND, DECENT PEOPLE HERE AT SB THAT ENJOYED SWAPPING WITH YOU.
THE APPARENTLY INTENSE AND PROLONGED RUDENESS YOU WERE SUBJECTED TO WAS OUT OF LINE — UNFORTUNATELY, THOSE WITH QUESTIONABLE BOUNDARIES KNOW THEY GET LOTS OF ROPE IN THE NAME OF FREE SPEECH AND OFTEN THEIR CONDUCT GOES UNCHECKED.
HANG IN THERE & EVEN IF YOU DID BY CHANCE HAVE 2 PROFILES, THAT’S EASILY REMEDIED & NO REASON FOR THE MISTREATMENT YOU RECEIVED.
NO DOUBT FORUM HAGS WILL ALWAYS EXIST
Thank you for the postcard - it arrived today. Very pretty image.
The profile wasn't deleted until after my message Sarah, but nice try. ;)
oh my! Loved the Vintage beach themed goodies from the Who Likes? tag! So glad I snagged that one!
Sarah, thank you so much for the Pick 3 TAG!!!! I love all the goodies you sent me!!!! I haven't even seen all those things before, wow, what a happy mail on a not so happy day for me!!! Thank you so much for brightening my day!! Ida
Thank you so much for the rabbit themed items for the menagerie tag! I love them so much!!!
What a generous and thoughtful OMAE Paper Bomb arrived from you today to brighten up our rainy day! Thank you very much for all the bits and bobs that will surely find good use around here!
Thank you for the flowery bits and the Jane Davenport papers/washi samples that you sent for the Take 2 tag!
Thank you for the grabbie tag!! ♡♡